what to do you do when you think you have found mr. right and sex is an issue?  not a bad issue because the sex is good but you know its wrong based on your religious beliefs.

@Special

It sounds like you already crossed the line. Are you feeling guilty based on your beliefs? Would he compromise with you?

It is a bit-time gamble, but you can try it and see if he falls for it.  It happened to me when a current GF got religious on me in mid-stream and cut me off the loving.  Luckily, like many brothas - except IntroSpective...lol - all I had to do was "stop", and there were two or three other fine sista that had been running after me and trying to get with me, who run into my back...

It is the right thing to do to not have sex until you are married, but if you having been sinning before and during the times you got with me, don't start with me... it wont be the last time you sin...lol.

Loid forgive me this morning...you know my heart is good...

Hell, you are in DC, the land of the million to one fine sistas to brothas, you can try it, and I will play the Mega Million today...

my chances of winning the big one are better than you getting him to stay when you cut him off the loving...lol.

Stupid dog bumped my arm again: who ran into my back...lol.

@Specialtye:  You have to be able to sleep at night, and your question is a personal one between you and your God.  If having sex is bothering your spirit, and interfering with your ability to be at peace...then perhaps fornication (the Bible's word not mine) is not for you.

@Dashon.  I totally agree with this comment. 

@Specilaltye  Been there done that.  I completely understand your dilemma.  I can tell you when I explained to my then boyfriend why I wanted to stop, he said "you should never have started".  So Wood is right on that point.   However, I feel if the man respects you, he should understand your wishes.  If he moves on, let him.  Then the next man you meet who you think may be in it for the long haul, you set him straight on your beliefs from the start.  Don't worry about how a man reacts, you have to be happy with you and at the end of the day only you can stand before God and answer for your actions.  Be at peace.

Thanks for the feedback everyone.  If he walks, he wasn't for me anyway.............so true!

However, I feel if the man respects you, he should understand your wishes. 
Sunny, I don't think it comes down to a lack of respect or understanding, because men know "it is the right thing to do", and he will respect you and understand your sentiments as correcting yourself back on solid Christain grounds.  Hell, I bet if she were dating the Deacon of the church - and you know how much they are the "Mack Daddies" of the church - he wouldn't go for it either...lol.

If he moves on, let him.  Then the next man you meet who you think may be in it for the long haul, you set him straight on your beliefs from the start.  Agreed, men want the option to leave or stand before hand.

The only thing I have always heard from brothas regarding sistas who withhold sex due to celibacy or for Christain believes, is that like a smoker who is trying to quit, she will likely fall off the wagon and is unlikely to be consistant and hold that stance for all the men she get romantically involved with.

@Specialitye... Gurl  you already know... If he walks then let - him - WALK... I hope you follow your true feelings and let him know in plain english (  or whatever is his native tongue) your needs.  You have to be able to look in the mirror and love and respect that beautiful lady you see, And he must also. 

My past relationship I was faced with the same delimma... I made the right decision and we are still friends, working on being together very slowly.. I give him his propers.  I know that I am a dynamite lady, one that the right man would love to have so YES I am worth it and he knows it also. 

This is a very difficult situation but it is one that you  have to deal with!!!  You have to do what feels right for you!  If sex is an issue for you then you have to do what is neccessary for you to feel good about the situation!  Nowt that we have gotten the pleasantries put of the way, the relationship is probably about to end!!!  Not trying to be mean but a man has physical needs and when he finds a place where he is getting those needs met he is good!  But if you decide to not give it up any more he is going to take it personal and resent you!  he is going to say  " well you didnt have a problem with it before?"  It is going to make him angry and he will probably try to deal with it for a minute but he will eventually want to leave!  The reason for this is he already feel like it is his and no one likes to be denied what they preceive is theirs!

Wood, wood, wood...you are something else, lol.  Keeping it real though.

You got that right... I can be a hot mess at time.  You better believe that there are a few sistas up in here who has no problem jumpin in my sh.t. 

It ain't easy being me...lol.