Why are men so obsessed with different feteshies? Some men like the boots and stockings and some men are just all out freaks. Some of us womem try to oblige only to a certain point. I'm obsessed with the boots myself but not to go to bed with them on. Some guys don't care, they prefer you stay in the boots all night. My boyfriend of seven years would only be with me sexually if I wore stocking and boots. Most of the time I went over there in my jeans to see what would happen. Nothing, What the heck, I dont think he could get aroused any other way. Whats really, really sad is that he is a very, very good lover. So of course I kept stocking in the car and my boots @ his house. I know there are other guys out there with different feteshies but why would that be the only way one could get aroused. We talked about this but he says its more exciting to him with the boots and stockings on. Whatever floats his bubble, What really goes through men minds when they want women to dress different in the bedroom or jump into character?

Well Loveless, from my end, I wouldn't know much about another man's sexual turn-ons...get my drift.  Personally, I don't have any of those sexual hang-ups, and I've never inquired about another man's sexual desires either.

@Wood so i'm not inquiring about another man's turn-ons either but the topic must have caught your attention somehow because you responded. So straight sex turn you on and it never gets boring w/o bringing in something for extra stimulation. I know women sometimes fantasize about being with a movie star or something. When I was married it was like ok he'll be Denzel tonight and I actually had more fun.

So straight sex turn you on and it never gets boring w/o bringing in something for extra stimulation.I like variation just like the next guy, and I'm open to familiar and unfamiliar acts, but I don't have a "fetish" for them.  I like the prone position just like I like the freaky stuff, but I don't fantisize about them. 

Having such a strict fetish like your man has can make life a little difficult at times.  He will have to find a partner who is willing to do such things and have that person willing to continue participating in the acts.   I actively seek to make life more manageble, expecially when it comes to my romantic affairs.

@Wood the key to any relationship is to find someone who like what you like. In the beginning a guy should just put it out there, his likes and dislikes, then somewhere in the middle the person in the relationship is not confused when he ask for something out of the ordinary.

That is one approach... I guest.  Yeah, folks can just come out upon meeting and just start talking about sexual likes and dislikes, positions and fetishes right off the top, expecially if they have a sexual tensions and just want to f.ck each other.  For the most part, I don't think those situations are very consistant from person to person.

Crazy fetish that I have which is for outside of the bedroom is women that really know how to rock some hats. Not talking about those Patti Labelle- Aretha Franklin hats but those winter type color wool joints to match her winter get up. I Like a shorty that can wear one like slim with the tilted brim.

@Woods see take notes from MassAppeal. A fetish just dont have to be sexual and you just dont meet someone and say hi im ... my fetish is..., but sooner or later you have to tell her what you like or dont like. To me thats a key element.

sooner or later you have to tell her what you like or dont like. To me thats a key element.  I agree on the like and dislike part, but just because I "like or dislike" something, I may not have a "fetish" for it.  I guest I'm looking at a fetish as having a out of the normal boundaries  attraction or desire for something... I convey my like and dislikes, but they aren't really way out to the left or right field of normal desires or attractions.

Well, I guest I have a "fetish" for a nice  juicy round ass... after all, I am a brotha...lol.

Your man insisting that you wear boots during sex is definitely a fetish. 

OK I spelled Fetishes wrong but oh well I tried to fix it but its too late. my bad. Based on the responses you guys knew what I was talking about. Thanks.

Loveless, I'm the master of mispelled words and typos, and that wasn't what I was talking about.  I was basically saying that I have likes and dislikes, but those aren't fetishes.  I think fetishes are consider what someone would normally be outside the box.  Insisting boots be worned during sex could be considered to be a fetish.Hell, I'm turned on by a fine sista standing half ass necked in mirror getting her hair ready for bed... no fetish, but I really do like it though.

See, I misspelled "misspelled"...lol. 

@Wood I knew what you were talking about and its cool. I just thought every man had them. I guess I've been with the wrong ones, I fill every man fatasy. I have a few of my own but I wont reveal.

Maybe most do, but that isn't something that I would care to talk about or ask, unless the fellas are talking about how somebody "freaked" his side chick or FWB.  I've never heard a brotha talk about his sexual tryst with his woman...only the casual "freak" get talked about...lol.  

Before the term FWB, we call them "freaks", back in the day.