So you found the person you want to be with but you guys have not had sex yet. Does it matters that they qualify in every area on your checklist except good sex? What if you tried talking with them and giving them some pointers but to no avail. What happens next? Do you stick with the person or let them go?

Good points.  It is funny that both men and women really want to be at a certian distance during the initual encounter that allows them to back out if the sex turns out to be pretty bad.  Many sistas will give it one or two shots, but after that, she will push him away.  The man will do the same things of getting lost.  I also believe that for the most part, the performance weighs heavily on the man more so than the woman...we have to not only get it up, but not ejaculate too soon.

It is this unspoken agreement between both parties that allows most men to get the loving without having to commit too soon... she doesn't want the burden of having to "undue" anything either if the sex is terrible.

YEEEEEEAAAAAHHHH People can write on my conversations again.

Does it matters that they qualify in every area on your checklist except good sex?

Yes, it matters.  Good sex can be achieved if both parties have an open mind, and are willing to step out of their comfort zones if necessary to please their partner.  Rarely does "good sex" just happen...its created.


What if you tried talking with them and giving them some pointers but to no avail. What happens next?

If a dude is not open to listening & responding accordingly to thoughts I share about what does it for me....then I will generally lose interest in having sex with him.  Can I continue to have a relationship with him?  Yes....a platonic one.

Do you stick with the person or let them go?

As stated....we could be friends....platonic friends.  Personally, I cannot, and at this stage of life...will not, commit to a relationship with a man that demonstrates no desire to do the things (within reason) that will satisfy me sexually.

The sex gots 2 b good.  Cut that mofo quick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  We can't even be friends cause I'm sure you gone want some mo.