I was watching the news yesterday and in Michigan our City Council woman's Political Consultant Sam Riddle was in court. That wasn't surprising because he is accused of Conspiracy, Extortion and making false statements to the Feds. What I was SURPRISED about was when our Former State Represenative, Mary Waters walked in to support him. It was just two weeks ago when she walked in her home and found him in bed with another woman in her bed. They had words with each other and he pulled a gun out on her. He went to jail and was sent home on an electronic tether. She show up at court saying she was angry and still loved him and supported him. I'm like WTF. I was really angry because as women she sat us back 200 years. But since all our politicians in Detroit seem to be corrupt, maybe she have more to lose by siding with him, But damn what about all the little girls looking up to Mary, trying to aspire to be like her. Cant no woman in hell be that darn forgiving. Its only been a couple of weeks since the incident. My question is do you think she really forgave him or is it just another conspiracy waiting to unfold? Oh by the way shes under investigation too. WTH

Entirely too forgiving.  I think sisters need to reevaluate the difference between being forgiving and being stupid.

But, in this situation, maybe he has dirt on her and threatened to spill the beans if she didn't show up.

I agree with JAT on this one.

@JustAThought I was thinking the same thing. When the reporters asked her if she still loved him, she readily answered YES! When the question was asked to him, he told the reporters yeah I love her like I love you. Again WTH He must have dirt on her.

Outside of this scenario and more generally speaking relating to relationships, people are more forgiving than they should be because of the fear of starting over, contentment, familiarity and/or the lack of confidence to move forward. I've seen too many people get second chances when the trust was obviously broken. I now approach every relationship that has great potential as if I have one chance and one chance only so I've learned to value the opportunity of maintaining the trust a woman may have in me.

@MASS your words were spoken so beautiful and truthful. Everyone should treat their partner with the utmost respect. Everyone should love and trust their patner so much that even if they are considering doing something stupid, they have the fear it just may be their last. I know from experience the person that you are the most familiar with, is forgiven first. You despise the unfamiliar and feel like he/she was responsible for the actions of the person you put all your trust into. Its just easier to forgive someone you once loved.

@ Mass:

You know your recent comments and posts have my nosy senses tingling.  But I will not pry.

I definitely respect your stated approach to relationships.

loveless - I have asked this question in my own head before about other women and even about myself. I think in the political arena forgiveness may be given along with a dose of quid pro quo. I would think either he has something on her....or she did the forgiving in exchange for some favor down the road that she can call him on...
I also think that in some instances women are "stuck on stupid" in the sense that when they consider on one hand they might end up totally alone with out some "piece of a man" or on the other hand they can forgive and still have a man "to some degree," that they chose the latter and forgive. Not the best answer in the long run...but ya know.


Now on the other hand we are all human and will all make mistakes and for those small slip ups we should give and seek forgiveness..but I agree with you in this case..I mean how much lower can you go? Really...