Have you ever been left alone in a SO.BF,GF's house and snooped around to gather some evidence? Why did you do it and can you justify those actions?

Has anyone snooped around your house, found something and brought it to your attention?

Wow !! .. never on my part.  

If you have to go through all that to find whatever on your partner, friend or what have you .. it's not worth you bieng there in the first place. Snooping leads to dangerous grounds in finding something that you may not want to find.  Whether if it's something good or bad.

I know of one friend in particular - She was seeing this guy, their at his house for the night, and he needed to run to the store.  He left her there alone.  Why???? .. don't know.  And, of course .. as she put it, nothing to do but look around.  By her doing so, she stumbled upon some THINGS.

No I haven't @ all.....I am really respectable of other's things cause I don't want anyone to do it to me.

"What happens in teh dark will come to light"

Great philosophy to live by, no matter what I may think is going on or wonder what's in that cabinet I won't. Never had it done to me atleast not that I know of...

@Miss10

Is there a part 2? You have to tell us what things she found?

@Wildfire

Hard to believe you never was curious but ok.

You never had any of your girlfriend who snooped around and found some "things"? I think it's more common than people are wllling to admit.

AS I said: no matter what I may think is going on or wonder what's in that cabinet I won't


Curious......yes I am a curious person by nature, which leads to trouble sometimes....I refuse to "rape" someone's things especially trying to be sneaky


Have I had a girlfriend or female family member snoop? HELL YES...I live through their stories and laugh. I had one cousin whose girlfriend left her in the house to go to the store....she left her phone...my cousin naturally picked it up and went through it. My mom told me a story of her being at a guy's house long ago and him going to the car she went in his nightstand and found numbers, condoms and photos of chicks on the same bedspread she sat on.....he caught her they argued and they lasted six more months....

@ MassAppeal:

It's funny talking to her about her now .. and she still gets a little heated.  But, I told that's what she gets for snooping around that man's house.

Anyway .... She found some s** TOYS and pictures. 

They were a couple for about maybe 6 - 7 months and throughout their conversations in getting to know one another .. His s** TOYS/pics were never mentioned.  So, going forward since she knows all this .. when the engaged in s** .. she would get a little scared, sort of, in not knowing what he might try to pull on her.

I think after that intimate encounter (2-3 days later) .. she couldn't bite her tongue any longer so she asked him was he into any s** game/fantasy/whatever.. that he might be into.  She stated he was honest and straight to the point .. that on occasion, he seeks out his fantasy in s** with men. What the *@#&^*? ...

From that moment on .. she was shocked and didn't know what to say.  But, in the end, those two ended after that.

@Miss10

Whoa...What's really going on out here. I mean seriously. I hope she b-lined straight for the door at that very moment. A lot of dudes out here straddling the fence. Pick a side and choose one.

@ MassAppeal:  Whoa is right..

Yeah, that dude was on the DL .. That experience DID freak her out.  She's good though .. just don't bring it up.

This DL epidemic is scary on both sides men and women......thats nasty, glad she got out

Wow be careful ya'll ASK QUESTIONS.  Ask if they ever allowed a MAN to give him head, ask if he ever GAVE a man head or kissed a man.  How does he feel about the homosexual community.  Does he have homosexual friends, how often do they hang out.  We got to start ASKING LOTS OF QUESTIONS.

In my blog - "I heard its being called a "Cover Girl...."".   Girl I SAW THE SIGNS EARLY.  He was giving EYE CONTACT TO MEN.   Whatever attraction I may have had at that time was GONE till I investigated more I NEVER SLEPT WITH HIM or KISSED HIM NOTHING.   You got to be wise.  

Have these guys take you out and watch them around other men. Are they STARING TOO HARD.  Are they making EYE Contact. 

Ask them if they like sex toys and have they EVER done group sex with other women with their friends invovled. 

The Sexual Beast is out there.  I HOPE SHE WORE A CONDOM.  WEAR CONDOMS WHILE GIVING BLOW JOBS TOO Unless you are in a monogamous relationship.

We GOT to be careful.

I admit to snooping in the past.  I didn't go through drawers, closets or anything like that, but a guy I was dating left me at his apartment while he ran to the store...he had his bills stacked on the dining room table.  The stacks were large and I was curious about his financial situation....so I took a look at them.  Turns out ole boy had a ton of debt.

Dashon did you quit him soon after that?

If you looking for some stuff then you are bound to find it, and you get what you deserve for looking through a SO's stuff.  The dudes left you there in trust so why violate that trust by snooping through his things.  Wouldn't you feel violated if it was done to you?

I ALWAYS believe that whats in the Dark will come out into the Light no matter how it gets exposed.  It was supposed to get revealed.  So its better to be out in the open with things than hiding things you don't want people to find out about.   Even in your own home ANYONE you let in is a potential snooper.  Put things you don't want revealed under Lock and Key.  No matter what, once you are in a committed relatinsihp you should be authentic about everything.  There leaves no room for doubt.

Actually

My SON watches tv in my bed sometimes.  And I DID FORGET TO PUT AWAY ONE of MY TOYS.

One day were were driving in a car.. and I was putting on mascara.  He said MOM I found something in your bed and it looks just like this.  INTERNALLY ALARMED,  I said OH MY really?? What did you DO with it?  He said I put it back.   I said OK good I'm so glad you put it back honey yeah, its MASACARA, its a tube of eye makeup for ladies.  He said Oh. 

YIKES!!!!

I seem to never really answer the question.

OK no old boyfriend, or exhusband has ever found anything and brought to my attention.  But a guy I used to date (not a boyfriend) a FB, would read my text messages when I wasn't in the room and asked me about who were the men I was texting.  Because of this and other things, I do not see him anymore.  If he were my boyfriend I would not be texting other men. 

@Mass:  We had just started seeing each other...he wasn't an SO.  I did stop seeing him, but not because he was drowning in bills.  The more I talked with him, the more I realized that he didn't have a PhD in C.S.-- Common Sense.  You don't have to be college educated...but you can't be no dummy.


@Sol:  I hear you, but to be fair...I didn't go through his stuff.  He had the bills laid out across the dining room table, I merely stood there and looked them over.  I'm with Makstar...things that I don't want folks looking at or seeing I put up, especially when I have company in the house.  Generally speaking...I don't do the spy thing...never even did it with my ex-husband and if a sistah was gonna snoop on somebody....that would have been the one.

I've never done it.  But I had a fool one time, find my old diary, from elementary and highschool.  He brought it to me crying and snotting and shit asking me how could I.  I was stunned.  THis stuff had nothing to do with him, he didn't even know any of the folks in there.  And half of the shit was a lie.  But yet that fool wanted to break down over the sins of my past.  Never could figure that one out.  I'm still a bit boggled by the scene.