Have you ever had a friend, family member, or loved one who was about to make a huge mistake and get married?  It could be that they are too young, or the relationship is too new, or that the person they want to betrothe is just crazy, sorry, and/or full of drama.  For whatever reason, the news of their impending engagement sounds bells of alarm instead of warm feelings of congratulations.  How do you tell this to your friend w/o totally damaging the relationship?

Good question sister. Once their mind is "clouded" with the possibility of long lasting love sometimes you have to let them live and learn on their own.

I've seen it from the other side as well where people blocked a perfectly compatible couple just out of spite, jealousy and hatred so we must be careful.

I said it to my aunt after dating my cousin's father for what 28 years without a ring cause he "said he wouldn't get divorced until he and his [wife]'s oldest child was out of the house"

He played two houese with two women who knew about everything on the other side for all those years....smh.....

But in the end if it worked for them all this time and she accepted it....I shut my young butt up and let them do them....but I was gonna say what I had too regardless....well what I felt I had too

That is a tough line to toe.  The difficulty lies in that your friend may look at you crazy for butting in.  Sometimes people are so blinded by love or whatever that they can't clearly see the obvious.  I am from the mindset of...if it's your true friend then just share the information because you want them to make a truly informed decision.  Holding on to it doesn't do either of you any good.  It's a high risk reward situation but at least you can sleep good at night knowing that you did what you could for your friend.

definitely say something.  people outside can often see what one who is blinded by love can not.

The people that let me live and learn are no longer in my life...

The people that told me I was making a mistake are still in my life...

I figure you don't really care if you're willing to just let me step out there in on-coming traffic, then are you really my friend?

But if you're willing to risk me getting mad at you because you don't want me to be hurt, then I view that as loyalty.

Quick answer to your question...YOU DON'T.

I have a friend who got married to a loser last summer. She is kind, sweet, generous but wanted to get married so bad she married the 1st one who wanted her.  She never healed from her 1st marriage and rushed right into a new relationship with this cat.

My friend has her PHD...her husband...A STRIPPER.  In addition he is a leech, emotionally abusive and has even put his hands on her....we can't stand him and thankfully, I took my kids on vacation when she got married so I didn't attend. I couldn't watch it...we talked to her about it..shared our concerns but it didn't matter. 

We still see each other about once every few months but it has never been the same. This man is her husband and I have to respect that but I keep my distance...that is until the ish hits the fan...then I'm her shoulder to lean on....but it will be hard not to say...I told you so...

JustA:  Sometimes the best thing you can do is step back and let them do their thing, and be there with open arms and plenty of tissues when they hit the wall; because if it truly is a bad situation, inevitably the house of cards will crumble.

I have tried this many times and failed.  In the end people are going to do what they want to do......and they either want you on board or not. If it is a close friend or family member you can attempt to communicate your feelings to them but more often than not..........they are going to say that you are just Hatin'!!!