Have you ever been in the beginning of a relationship, or in the initial stages of dating (for you jugglers out there) with a perfectly acceptable person, and then been thrown for a loop when, out of the blue, you meet one of their friends that you are waaaaayyy more attracted to?  Someone with whom the chemistry is off the charts, but they are completely off limits because you are dating their friend?  Please share!

Also, let me know at  what point does the "friend law" (ie friends of SOs, dating partners, etc.) kick in. Is it every cool to cross this boundary?

This is a real good question girlfriend. I know I've been there and even tried to be bogus a few times by trying to back track. Even tried to be honest and just simply stated I'm kind of diggin your girl what's good. I feel if we never got to a point of anything serious they should understand right? Nah, never gets to go down like that.

Why you ask? U must be caught up in a love triangle. You care to share?
I'm sure plenty of FH cats had to be in this situation a time or two.

i been in this situation but never pursued it.

the friends rules:

1) never any of my BFFs exes (or anyone they had physical contact with actually)
2) if a dude has a special place in my heart, never any of his friends
3) never leave a dude for another dude.  therefore, i wouldn't pursue anything with a cute friend.

you can't help who you are attracted too.  you can only help what you do about it.

I've been in that situation and never touched it...It sucks but...it could lead to some potential drama and I don't ever want to look like I was just rolling around with other folks in his crew...

I'd keep it a quiet crush and not make a move.  It has too much potential to bring drama.

Geez I had that happen in college. I thought I liked a guy until I met his brother.  I wasn't sleeping with the man or anything.  We kissed but it was a very weird relationship he was a real church type and I've always been a free spirit... (Not loose just impulsive) 
Then his brother enrolled and we spent day after day spinning records in the campus radio station where I DJ'd It was beautiful. We were great friends.  But, brother I was dealing with was rarely around.  Then one night some friends and I were going out and he called to find out what I was doing.  He was feeling me too I think by that point.  We spent a semester together listening to music and talking. On the way over to pick him up my best friend said, "You guys have fallen in love."  I was in denial.
I believe the brother sensed it and he met us in the drive and said my brother can't go.  The next day everything was the same I did my show, he came and sat with me and after that semester (we only had two weeks left) I never saw him again.
Sometimes I wish we had crossed the line

Thats a serious question.  I have been there before.  But if there had been any physical exchange I would not go at friend (speaking strictly of post college situations...lol)    However, if things are really early then its a whole different story.  Just back off and find an opportunity to spark things with the friend.  

I don't know when the friend rule kicks in for women.  For men it kicks in once your boy makes it known that he really cares for a women....and he has gotten her.  Remember fellas,  you can't handcuff a woman that you don't have yet. 

Im with Jayo on this... the friend rule kicks in after he's made some traction. If my boy is tryn to kick it with a girl and hes not making any ground for a like a month, Im like "man ur girl been checkn me, u need to let me get that" His feeling may be hurt, but he's gotta respect the game.

The dude I wrote about in my "Blame it on the Alchohol" blog was with a guy I had met before and was kind of feeling, but didn't pursue anything with because he was married at the time.  The same night I endured an hour with Black Santa (instead of the guy I thought I was meeting)...he told me was recently divorced & had just decided to get back into the dating arena.....Yeah!  Then he told me that Black Santa was his best friend...Dayum!  


Needless to say....all thoughts of getting to know him better flew out the window.  Even though I had no interest in getting to know Black Santa, and my meeting him for a drink that night was a total case of mistaken identity...I didn't want to play him like that.