I had to say something about this subject because a friend of mine just realized this morning that he is still getting over his ex-girlfriend after almost 5 years.!  Not that he is all broken up about it but he told me that he still feels something sometimes when her name is mentioned.  Being honest with myself, I realized that I am also in a transitional phase when it comes to my ex of 2 years.  I am really wondering if a person really was in love with another do you ever get over that person?  i know that there is a range of emotions that come along with breaking up like anger, sadness, self-doubt, remnants of love, hatred and acceptance.  I have experienced all of these but I gusee my thing is why is it that you still feel something when that person is bought up or if you run into them?  Does there ever come a time when you feel absolutely nothing?  Now I don't want people to lie to themselves and say that there is and there really isn't.  But I wonder.  I know that before I ever got into a serious realtionship with a woman I could not undrstand why people would go back and forth with an ex.  Now that I have had a serious relationship I undrstand completely, the feelings that a person can experience!  Holla at me and lwt me know what the deal is but please be honest about your feelings!

I could never go back to an ex... not even my ex wife whose qualities and attributes... for the most part, is my reference point as to what I perceive as being a excellent catch.  I knew when I was planning on leaving my ex wife that a woman like her would be hard to come by, and that I would more than likely not get such treatment again.

Me and my ex wife are great friends, and my present GF think she is very nice and attractive woman, but with me, once I've been with a woman or had a romantic attraction  towards a woman and another man put his hands or her, or I perceived he has,  I have never had a desire to want them again... that thought always "seals" the deal.

G-Smoove good question. It all depends on what kind of expectations you had with an ex. If you really saw that person as a potential life long long mate and you've invested time, energy and really opened yourself up completely..it may take some time if you're being real with yourself. You may even give youself a grace period and try it again before you really move on. They always say it's easier to fall in love than out of love if it was real.   

If you are in love with a woman.. I mean REALLY in love, you never forget that woman. She'll either be the one that got away or what could have been. Don't get me wrong, you do move on, but if did anything to blow it and she left you, it's in the back of your mind. Don't catch her years later looking good on the arms of some other dude.

I think how you get over an ex, as in being in love with them, depends on the strength of the bond between two people and how the relationship ended. I'm still kind of hung up on someone that I was "with" (we never officially got there...ugh lol) and I think it's because I thought that we were so perfect for each other but then never got the chance to actually form a real relationship. Also, I considered the person a good friend prior to having developed feelings for him, so we had a pretty good bond/foundation.