Sneaking out the back door to hang out with those hoodlum friends of mine. Greeted at the back door with boy I thought I told you not to go outside. Trying your best to bring the water to your eyes, hoping it might stop her from whipping your behind! I wish those days...could…come back once more; why did those days...ever have to go? I loved them so!” ...
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Within the last six months or so, I've been watching something quite
startling happening around me. My friends are splitting from their
spouses and/or heading down the road toward a split at breakneck
speed. Now, those of you who know me well know that I'm a firm
believer in asking the hard questions, so today, my question is this:
What happened to entering into this thing reverently...
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Fame and Honor
“We must bear in mind the distinction between fame and honor. A virtuous person is an honorable person, a person who ought to be honored by the community in which he or she lives. But the virtuous person does not seek honor, being secure in his or her own self-respect. Lack of honor does not in any way detract from the efficacy of moral virtue as an indispensable operative...
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I recently had the opportunity to chat with Lamar Tyler, cofounder ofwww.BlackandMarriedWithKids.com. We talked about the website, love, relationships and the fact that his business partner is his wife.
FH: What inpired you to create BlackandMarriedWithKids.com?Tyler: We...
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So I’m 33 and single with no kids. I know many women my age are leary of doing anything serious with me based on the idea that they either by now have kids and have no intentions of having another or they are single with no kids and intend to stay that way! To say that I want kids is not an assured statement either yet I do know the possibility of such is much more enticing then that of end all...
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I have to admit I know quite a bit of pop culture information. Random facts about this actor or that singer or who wrote the screenplay for a certain movie. The more I thought about how much we keep up with entertainment news and the Hollywood community, the more I thought about how I don't know as much about the people in my own community. Is it a sign of the times? Do you know your neighbor?
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"To be or not to be?" is the phrase used in Shakespeare’s classic play alluding to the idea of life and death. Everyday potential parents are faced with the same choice with one major difference: they are choosing whether the child will or will not be brought into this world. By the time most people hit their mid 20s they have faced this question at least once. For some it is not a question....
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The year was 1980, and I was as the elders would say -- smelling myself. Fast forward to 2010; my son is now -- smelling himself.
It’s like I’m watching my life of 30 years ago playing out again via his existence. On some levels I understand what’s going on in his head; after all…he is me…30 years ago. A friend pointed out...
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Valentine’s Day was beautiful. We ate at one of our favorite
restaurants. We drank our favorite champagne. And we made a date with our
favorite porn stars. Their names are not important. I’ll call them Frank and Princess.
What is important is that we always have a great time. They help spice up our
love making and what’s best, they never complain, put in requests, or tell us
to stop rewinding....
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For every absent father, there is also one that is too present. And you could say the same for Mothers. For every absent parent, there is that parent that becomes SUPER-PARENT. I think one of the main problems in our relationship world is this pendulum that swings between these two worlds. Absent and Present. We've all heard the adage that people seek to date/marry someone who is like our...
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It was brought to my attention that many of the blogs that appear on FH are not about successful relationships, or dating experiences that leave us smiling and anticipating the next one. It would be great to have a plethora of stories that detail the splendor of our love, however in order to write those types of stories….we must begin to experience them.
In order to experience...
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During a conversation with some friends who have been married for a number of years, the topic of ways to avoid sex with your spouse came up. Although I’m now single, I could relate to what they were saying.
Married couples tend to get into a sexual routine. From the way in which they have sex, to the day of the week & times they have it. The routine is usually...
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My husband I come from two different spiritual backgrounds.
He is Catholic and I am a Christian. That sounds weird , right? But, the truth is
that I never really considered Catholicism traditional Christianity. I am sure
that is out of ignorance, and I freely admit that. You always hear that “A
family that prays together stays together.” My question is whether a family
that prays separately...
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I am explaining to many why my motorcycle bond is so strong as well as why it seems as if my fraternal ties have weakened. I'm also explaining why I'm going to make a better effort to reach out to cats that have come in and out of my life and be a better friend and I know in the past I have deliberately let some of our relationships fall by the wayside. In reflection I have discovered that through...
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The following letter I sent to a group of men that I believe to hold the values and characteristics of true brotherhood on September 29th and I found it ever so ironic as my weekend was more than eventful than I could have ever expected!
Addressing my "Brother"
I crossed into the Epsilon Alpha Chapter of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity Inc. on April 17th, 1997. Up until this...
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My
last name is still D…… I have not yet changed it to my married name. P…. has
been very patient about this. But, the longer I wait to do it, the more I
wonder if I should. There are benefits and liabilities to both. On the one
hand, if I keep my name, I don’t have to change every piece of paperwork in my
name. For me, that is a lot! I have a business, several bank accounts, etc.,
etc., etc....
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That first real fight changed something. It changed me. It
changed us. Up until that time, it was doves, roses, and a can-do-no-wrong
attitude. After the incident, the doves pooped, the roses grew thorns, and the
can-do-no wrong turned to no can do. I
will get to the fight in a minute. The when, how and where is not as important
as the now. And the why—well, at their core, most fights are...
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Epiphanies can come at the
strangest times. Mine came while balancing my checkbook this weekend. I had
married for love and not for money, or did I? That might seem a strange question
because if you marry for love, should you really even be thinking about the
alternative – marrying for money? I’ll be one to say, I did think about it and
still think about it every now again at strange times,...
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I was telling one of my best girlfriends that I was all
excited about this new relationship site called Flagler Hill. I told her I’d be
writing and reading and that it was going to be awesome. The look on her face
told me she wasn’t so thrilled. “Girl, how does P____ feel about you putting
all your dirty laundry out there for the world to see”? She told me her husband
would never go for it...
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Men don’t want sex. As a matter of fact it matters very little to men- here’s the key phrase- when looking for a wife. Whew! I felt a million men stare at the screen like “Where is this buster from” before I clarified. Think about it. How many men have you heard say that they committed to their wife because of her sex game? Sounds silly now doesn’t...
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