Well to  make it clear... Actually, you didn't make anything thing clear.  I think you are saying that men doesn't say what they are feeling or thinking, and that they act as if they are oblivious to you.

I don't know whether the "34" is indicative your age, but if it is, you shouldn't be confused by your issues... thats relationship 101. Even Wilma on the Flintstones talked about how Fred never listen, or forgets.  Ever family show that ever existed portrayed the man at having selective hearing. 

Actually you have to be a good listener in order to be able to build upon, understand, and work through these types of basic relationship obsticles.

My momma complained about this type of issue, my aunt, sister in law, and every GF I can think of said the same things...

its inate to a certain extent.

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OK I understand what your saying 99% plus 2 and this is not for me I am 34 and I have learn a  long time ago that men mmmm just a few short in some areas . I have a couple of people that went through something that I am like who does that?? Like on example the young lady and her guy been dating for 2 years now going on 3 years and he decides out the blue to rent his house out and tell her he is ready to move in. But the this friend of mine has a child that is a single parent that is 24 and has a child on the way. He asked along with my friend for her child to move to the town they are at  to help her so she can get on her feet. So make a long story short she lets him move in thinking this is going to lead to marriage and then one day he just decides to move out! The sad thing is it was only a month that he was there....my friend is the so good to this man she doesn't yell she makes sure he has dinner and lunch and she will do anything for that man I just don't understand how you make a big jump to move in with someone and then move out while they are at work and don't say a word or answer your phone...so please tell me why would a so call man that says he loves the Lord will do something like that..instead of praying it through?

her guy been dating for 2 years now going on 3 years.  I'm old school in addition to being literal, and for someone to just move in out of the blue is unusual.  In addition, for a sista to let him move up in there with her son is unusual also.

has a child on the way.  I'm trying to do the math and assume that the child that is on the way is his.

I have more questions regarding your GF's behavior than his.  Dating for years, knocked up by an unstable man who probably needs her financial help more than she needs his... this is all messed up.

We all make mistakes and "mess up" during our time, but there are mistakes, moments and goof ups that we just can't afford to make in our lives... and this appears to be one she will have a hard time swallowing.

This guy has no plans to be with her, and she will get a clearer picture of him after the fact; a clear that she should have taking all those years to open her eyes and see before getting pregnat by this guy. 

Imagine how pissed off she will be if she determines that he has another woman... boy oh boy.  Brother man needed a temparary place to stay...nugga might have gotten evicted, and move in her spot for a few to get situated.

Does "dating" in young folks speak mean BF/GF? 

*Mumbling*

Dating might have the opposite meaning as "swagg"... never know.

It's hard to NOT speculate in a situation like this. I don't believe this was a committed 2-3 yr relationship and the guy invloved definitely has/had someone else on the side (maybe a cple females). With that being said, if your friend is pregnant by this man...it's NOT a good thing and he probably knocked her up on purpose. I always tell my girls to supply their own condoms - it's the smart thing to do these days. Her age is NOT an exception --she's an adult.

She chose one of the many BAM's (Bi**h Azz Men) they have running around in our community and he set her up to deal with the consequence's of their actions all by her lonesome. Typical for the BAM squad. If child #2 is NOT his...she may NOT have much more than what she had prior to the move in to worry about.

He said he'd help her out....she thought they'd get married b/c they were living together...look at the many generations of men that have made this move with their women and still aren't married!

My advice to your friend: Forget about him, take care of her children by herself and remember she has control of the choices she makes in this life.