July 29th 2010
Is Being Single an Alternative Lifestyle?
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by loveless on March 7, 2010, 8:37 am in Dating
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Being Single is becoming an alternative lifestyle for some. There are some lonely desperate men and women who are not playing games. They are willing to go as far as to put their feelings on the back burner to accomodate someone else. Barbra Walters interviewed Monique from BET and Monique stated if her husband had an affair with more than 20 women she would not leave him nor would this be a deal breaker. Im not going to judge Monique or her morals but the questions was asked on a radio show, is she willing to stay because she is so insecure and her self esteem is so low, that she's willing to put her feelings aside so he can still be with her. I want someone to love me as much as I love them and i'm not willing to put up with much especially if he want to be with someone else. Right now I like being single and believe me its a choice. Im being judged though. Sometimes i'd rather go to the movies by myself than with a date. I stopped going to the clubs alone because guys think your sole purpose of being there alone is to get picked up. I know im not alone in thinking this way. If they did a survey I bet there are more people that want to be alone than with someone but are pressured by society to make a hasty decision. If you reach a certain age people want to know why you are not married or why you dont have children. I know no one can live on a Island alone but if the island was filled with books and music and the internet, I think people could adjust. Im just saying its too much pressure on people to be with someone when being single is not bad at all.
Do you think single people are lonely and unhappy or do you feel some are happy and and just made an educated choice to be single?
Do you think single people are lonely and unhappy or do you feel some are happy and and just made an educated choice to be single?
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On March 8, 2010, 7:21 am Wood says:
I assuming your reference to single as being unmarried as oppose to not having commited companionship.
Anywho, either or, being single is a very nice lifestyle and comes with great flexibilities in how you manage your romantic affairs. I always looked at being single as oppose to being in a commited relationship like two different road to the same same destination being happy. No matter which "road" I take, both roads are being taken to the ultimate ending to being happy. I feel women and men have differing mind-sets at a certain point when it comes to being single and being totally commited. With many brothas, the presence of suitable companionship trumps being in a commited relationship, with many being pressured to establish some sort of commitment in order to continue to enjoy the companionship of the person we are seeing.I think with many woman, there comes a time in their lives when they want some sort of stability that comes with being in a effective relationship, where as with many brothas, we got accustomed and very comfortable to the variaty of sistas that comes along every two to three years...lol. |
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On March 8, 2010, 2:21 pm MsMatt says:
It can go either way. Some people are single by choice and are very happy that way. Others are desperately seeking their soul mate and are very unhappy in their state of singledom.
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On March 10, 2010, 7:06 pm RickGeez says:
loveless
I feel some people are comfortabe and content with being single and others are only caught up with "idea" of having a mate but not willing to put in the work to maintain. |
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On March 16, 2010, 6:37 am Wifefirst says:
Loveless,
Being single is one of the most beautiful times in a person's life, if they allow it to be. When I met my husband, I was so happy being single, I couldn't take him seriously. It was difficult to give up my freedom. But, I gained much more. I found that you don't have to give up who you are to be in a great relationship. That was something I didn't consider when I was single. That is because I was in so many other relationships where I felt like I had to be someone else and that was just unacceptable to me. If there is a choice between being happily single or miserable in a relationship, by all means go solo! |
As for Monique, I don't even begin to understand that situation. I used to get all judgemental about people in open relationships, but it's not my life so whatev. And, for all the talk we have about how much we would leave, what we wouldn't put up with, etc. - how many of us know women (and men) who have stayed in relationships after their partner cheated? How many have put up with stuff that they said they wouldn't?