September 8th 2010
I want your money, trips and shopping sprees but not your love!
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by loveless on April 29, 2010, 8:48 pm in Dating
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OK here we go again. I know I've been M.I.A but i've been enjoying life to the fullest. The trips, the shopping sprees, the money. Its all good but Im still not feeling the love. Somebody asked to marry me. I almost choked. Now im not trying to string the brother along, I didnt even ask for all the stuff he's been throwing my way but I may be a fault for willingly accepting it. Thats a whole nother blog. We discussed before we went on this trip that I wasnt ready for sex. He agreed. Now if Im not ready for sex, why would he get the impression that im saving myself for marriage. Thats funny. It was miscommunication all the way around the board.
He felt like he was the man for me. Since he was able to give me things. That doesnt mean I love you and want to marry you. He said something even funnier. I could learn to love him once we are married.
I dont know how many on this blog is actually married or have been married but a man will change on you so fast as soon as you say I DO. Thats why im sticking to I DONT. MEANING I DONT EVER WANT TO MARRY AGAIN. OK before you ask, this is not a random guy. We have history. But that doesnt mean I want to sleep with you again.
I wanted to go different places and see different things. Damn I justed wanted to get out the house and have some fun. Getting married is not my idea of fun. Its like some sick, twisted joke. I know the guy probaly do love me. He speaks for damn near every man i've come in contact with, not to brag. Im just saying. But I have reason to believe that if we get married, his whole attitude would change. Giving me money to bet on the horses is one thing but what if we got married and I just wanted to blow it on whatever, See thats a whole nother topic. See Im not that complicated but people make my life that way. after we leave this trip, I will probaly cut him off because he's getting to close for comfort.
What do you think flagler, should you allow a guy or a woman to buy you things but cut out the love part?
He felt like he was the man for me. Since he was able to give me things. That doesnt mean I love you and want to marry you. He said something even funnier. I could learn to love him once we are married.
I dont know how many on this blog is actually married or have been married but a man will change on you so fast as soon as you say I DO. Thats why im sticking to I DONT. MEANING I DONT EVER WANT TO MARRY AGAIN. OK before you ask, this is not a random guy. We have history. But that doesnt mean I want to sleep with you again.
I wanted to go different places and see different things. Damn I justed wanted to get out the house and have some fun. Getting married is not my idea of fun. Its like some sick, twisted joke. I know the guy probaly do love me. He speaks for damn near every man i've come in contact with, not to brag. Im just saying. But I have reason to believe that if we get married, his whole attitude would change. Giving me money to bet on the horses is one thing but what if we got married and I just wanted to blow it on whatever, See thats a whole nother topic. See Im not that complicated but people make my life that way. after we leave this trip, I will probaly cut him off because he's getting to close for comfort.
What do you think flagler, should you allow a guy or a woman to buy you things but cut out the love part?
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On April 29, 2010, 9:08 pm femmeamoured says:
yes.
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On April 29, 2010, 9:18 pm MsValleyG says:
@loveless: Seems like a sad case of "money can't buy me love". I don't think one should take too much for someone who is actually genuinely interested in them if the feelings aren't mutual b/c then you're leading that person on. But then again if he's silly enough to keep buying you stuff... Go for it LOL! I dunno!
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On April 29, 2010, 10:26 pm wotubenmissn says:
Look at u, galavantin' around puttin FH on the bench. Now u wanna come back, lol. So what exactly is ur hangup with Daddy warbucks? Is it that he just doesn't do it for u, or ur worried about him swirchin' up on u?
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On April 30, 2010, 1:15 am crucial63 says:
Depends on the type of person you are and if you have been honest with the other person about your feelings towards them.
If your not feeling the other person then tell them and let it be there choice to do for you, dont lie and get all you can then leave the person. |
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On April 30, 2010, 8:09 am Dashon says:
@Loveless: My motto is always: "Do You". Personally, I don't accept gifts from guys that I have no romantic interest in, it can be misleading. A man will give you gifts for one of two reasons:
He's feeling you, and those gifts are meant to be representative of those feelings -- feelings that he hopes will be reciprocated if he does things for you; or he prefers tricking to a real relationship. Doubtful its the later if he's asking for your hand in marriage. As Crucial said, be honest with him, and let him make an informed decision about whether to keep dealing with you in that way. |
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On April 30, 2010, 9:17 am Wood says:
You know Loveless, I've always untilized the term... There is one born every minute.
That guy was born right on time...lol. Let this sucker spend his money on your, and if you want, get caught up on some bills, can notes, saving, etc. After that, just tell him that you want to be just friends and put some distance between you two. He is a bonified sucker, and this is the type of results that he should be expected from woman when he spend like that. Getting used up like that, is just the cost of doing business of being a sucker. Suckers spend the money and then try to get the loving. I don't take gift, money from women, and I feel if you want to do something for me, cook me a sweet potato pie!!! Or a big pot of black eyed peas... that what I want. |
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On May 4, 2010, 7:42 am loveless says:
I HAD TONS OF FUN-
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On May 4, 2010, 8:04 am Wood says:
I bet you did. Next time, get him to pick up a pair of 13 med. sand color Caimain skin boots. Just tell him it if for you when your feet swell up...lol. I will ride up there to pick up the boots next weekend...lol.
Or you can get the ole sucker to get some full quil Ostrich skin boots. Get a wine color or black... pretty please, with sugar on top!!! |
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On May 4, 2010, 8:51 am loveless says:
LOL
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On May 4, 2010, 9:11 am G-Smoove says:
I really dont agree with this one! You are allowing a man to spend money on you and that is cool! The issue comes when you know he is spending money on you because he wants to be with you. That is misleading. He is not doing it for his health! He is trying to get you! If you have no interest in this brother then y0u should not accept gifts from him! He is going to feel entitled to something and some men take what they feel entitled to. Now some of you women have the I goota get mie mentality but what happends when you find that man that you are really interested in? What happens when he allows you to play yourself? And dont think that it will never happen to you! All situations have a reverse! For every action there is an opposite and equal reaction! Be careful of having this mentality because it is very dangerous!
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On May 4, 2010, 9:36 am IntroSpectiv says:
Maybe I missed something, but I'll be damned if I just spend money on a woman for the hell of it....and nothing good comes out of the whole thing.
Where they do that at? |
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On May 4, 2010, 12:36 pm MsValleyG says:
@G-Smoove: I totally agree with the following statements: You are allowing a man to spend money on you and that is cool! The issue comes when you know he is spending money on you because he wants to be with you. That is misleading. He is not doing it for his health! He is trying to get you! If you have no interest in this brother then y0u should not accept gifts from him!
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On May 4, 2010, 8:14 pm loveless says:
I DONT KNOW A MAN THAT DOESNT WANT TO BE WITH ME. IM NOT MISLEADING ANYONE. IM NOT ASKING FOR ANYTHING MEN GIVE ME STUFF. WE HAVE FUN. IM UNCOMPLICATED.QPULES ARE EXPLAHNED B4.WE HAD TWO ROOMS AS HE SUGGERTED. HE COULD HAVE TAKEN ANYONE BUT HE WANTED TO HAVE FUN SO HE TOOK ME. WE BETTED ON HORSES AND WON. HE GOT SOMETHING OUT OED IT AND SO DID I. HE DIDNT GET ME BUT WE STILL HAD FUN.
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