July 29th 2010
How far will you go to find out if your spouse is cheating?
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by loveless on February 26, 2010, 5:36 pm in Dating
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How far will you go to find out if your spouse or significant other is cheating on you? I'll be the first to admit I have went pretty darn far. Now some will say, if you have to put yourself out there like that then you don't need to be with the person. I'll say from first hand experience, you want to know for yourself. My friends can only tell me half the story. A spouse will lie until the end, even during marriage counseling, again I know all to well. I have hired a private investigator, followed someone in another car and showed up at an univited event. I just wanted to know. You can ask a person but seeing it for yourself brings closure and an end to the everlasting lies. Im not going to stalk anyone that isnt my husband but once he say I DO then its free reign. I totally expect him to tell me the truth. I want to be with someone that is trustworthy and when he fail at his only obligation to me then its time for me to put on my detective hat. ok im not going to lie the stalking tendencies are there. lol. Dating to me is not that serious so I have to take my potential date word as truth. I must admit though there are things or signs I look for. Because Im not serious about anyone and I just date, then our relationship is open. If the relationship is open then there shouldnt be any room for lies. I mean if I dated a person last nite and he's out with someone else the next night and we see each other, the head nod is sufficient.
My methods may not be the best but they work for me. How far will you go to find out if your spouse or significant other is cheating on you?
My methods may not be the best but they work for me. How far will you go to find out if your spouse or significant other is cheating on you?
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On March 2, 2010, 7:31 am Wood says:
Dang Loveless, I see where your name originated...lol. I can't imagine me feeling in such a way and then feel the need to actually prove something... my unsettling feeling about such a major deception would be good enough for me.
I just heard this stories of all stories of how a brotha got played to the max when he married a fine and sexy woman who way too much hoe in her. It was one of those stories where everyone knew about her but him. |
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On March 2, 2010, 6:15 pm MassAppeal says:
@loveless
Interesting question as I would probably have to check myself first and really determine where my trust with this lady lies or if it would be a case of my own insecurities leading me to check behind my spouse to see if she's treating. It's just not a good look especially if you're wrong. But it would be tempting....but you better be ready for what you find if your intuition is right. |
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On March 8, 2010, 2:24 pm MsMatt says:
I wouldn't go very far at all. I go with my gut and it's never wrong.
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On March 9, 2010, 5:25 am loveless says:
So what I hear everyone saying is once you feel it or sense it. you would just let that person go? @Mass you would be tempted but you would be like, just 4get it. and Wood you would ask if she was cheating and if she say NO, then what, you would just let her go? and MsMatt what if you are wrong, then what? Im asking because I know im not the only one that will go all out. See I heard the rumors, I stumbled on a few clues, I asked but to no avail. See the person he was cheating with was a very prominent gospel singer in the community. He was the drummer and she was the lead singer. She had been over to the house numerous of times but I never, ever thought she was having an affair with my husband until I saw the pictures in black in white. I mean if I had the opportunity to do it all over again, I would. I just cant go by my inner feelings because Im to the point I feel every man cheat, lie and decieve the heart at all cost.
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On March 11, 2010, 7:35 pm mrtogood says:
What really is Cheating? Talking on the phone, chating on the net, having lunch occasionally, is that cheating? Or is it cheating only when you have sex?
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On March 11, 2010, 8:33 pm Wood says:
Wood you would ask if she was cheating and if she say NO, then what, you would just let her go? I would do one or two things... I would totally pull my emotions from her but not tell her. I've done this quite a few times, but I not in an establish relationship where as I thought my GF was cheating. Or, I would end it. If the woman was my wife, I would leave her. I am a very secure person and a sista would have to blatantly or carelessly exibit behavior that indicates that she is receptive to the advances of other men, interested in other men, or is likely seeing another man. Either or, I'm leaving her.
The way that I run my romantic program, is that you can't run it and have to be absolutely correct, or I would end up behaving like you...lol. The way I manage my romantic affair is that you can't be affraid to be wrong or have any regrets if you are, and being wrong at times versus the overwhelming times that you are correct is just the cost of doing business. It sound very strict and mechanical, but it has served me very well over the years. |
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On March 12, 2010, 5:41 pm loveless says:
@mrtogood Its all of the above. Cheating to me is spending more time and money and conversations with anyone or anything except me. That means if he speak with a co-worker about me and doesnt notify me about their conversation, its emotional cheating. If he go to his buddy house and play cards for money and doesnt notify me then he is financially cheating. If he have sex with someone else and notify or doesnt notify me, he is sexually cheating. Neither sit well with me. My significant other should be able to tell me any and everything. he shouldnt have secret friends or habits. I should be his bad habit. If he feel he need something else to occupy his time besides me, we have a problem. More than likely I'll figure out the problem and leave. If I cant be first in his life, I really dont need to be in his life at all.
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On March 12, 2010, 8:15 pm Wood says:
If he feel he need something else to occupy his time besides me, we have a problem. You might just want to continue keeping your romantic dealings very easy and breezy. "Loveless" should be your M.O. to keep from complicating things.
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Now, if she want to still sleep with me after the relationship is over, I'll welcome that though...lol.