Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mamas out there, including those who are mothering to someone they did not birth with kind words and actions.  In an ode to all, I ask: does Mama have to be a mama to everyone in the household or might you take off and rest a day or two each month?

Of course the mamas often run the household logistics to ensure everything gets done.  That is not to say that men do not contribute (you will get your ode next month for Father’s Day). But the mamas nurture the children, husbands, and pets.  Many of you work full-time outside the home too!  Taking care of others is a sacrifice you willingly make.  For a few moments this day, and for some time in the coming year, please let’s all work together so mama rests too.

What’s on the list of household options: love the family, cook, clean, wash clothes, iron, fold, put away, maintain the kitchen, shop, pick up behind those who left something, run errands, pick up the children, make more love/sex your man, etc.  Yes, I left sex till last on the list…not because it is last in the priorities or wants, but it takes two to tango and requires a lot of the energy that was already consumed with the household stuff.  Wouldn’t it be great if there was one day when you could do what you want?  Isn’t that what Mother’s Day is all about…or is it a way for those we love to honor us and say thank you to Mother for making a difference in our lives.  I don’t think it was meant for your man and children to call you up when you are just leaving church and say: Happy Mother’s Day…what’s for breakfast?

You really want to show Mama how much she matters today or any day? Forgive her for being human and needing time to restore.  Allow her guilt free time to herself.  If you want to score extra brownie points then— 

If your man is unable to make it happen for you, then mamas, it’s up to you to celebrate you!  That means live now, have your moment of rest, and ask for forgiveness later!