Ladies, should you have that Stella moment while you are on vacation?  The ‘Stella’ moment is when you actively decide to pursue the lust that attracts you to someone and romance sparks are flying across the room.  You just can not help yourself as a magnet pulls you to what you believe is your destiny.  This is the ultimate meet, great, and romance up close and personal.  It is the affair that sizzles with no care about tomorrow…until tomorrow!

Vacation is a prime location where we let our guard down and expose ourselves in ways we would not ordinarily.  Should you act on those feelings and desires?  Should you pursue what you body is trying to convince your mind is a must do?  The answer lies in your intended result!  But let’s not rush to the conclusion or even thoughts of the consequences just yet ~ let’s go through what’s on your mind…

Is it just about sex?  Let’s face facts: men have had Stella moments for centuries.  Most men are visually attracted and simultaneously within seconds have looked you up, down, assessed your sexual desirability, and assigned you a rating.  Then as a part of those combined thoughts coming from the southern part of their bodies they decide whether to pursue you…if yes, it becomes a matter of how much availability, time, what they will do and when. 

Many women will look for emotional ties and a connection that is beyond just the visible.  Romance on vacation is brief, exciting and intense.  Make no mistake…for this moment you are wanted more than anything.  The right set of circumstances will set the stage for lust: a look, lick of the lips, body that won’t quit, the desire to be someone you are not (even if for just the moment), a need to feel sexy and empowered, getting over a bad relationship, etc.  Whatever is your specific set of circumstances, when presented with the intention and willing parties, the affair will happen if you let it!

Are you vulnerable…absolutely.  There are a different set of rules for men and women.  This is serious business.  Whenever you give your power to another human being, you are vulnerable.  Who is this person you face and what do they want from you other than sex.  Are they interested in who you are and what you represent?  Do either of you care to know any more?  What happens when tomorrow comes?  Are you going to remember it as the time of your life, a fantasy come true?  Is that enough to leave you satisfied and happy?  Are you going to get emotionally caught up and be sad with goodbye?  Are you going to cling to a hope that you will be able to forge a long term (and in many instances long distance relationship)?  Will he respect you when vacation ends?  Are you already planning the next Stella moment?  Answer these questions for yourself, up-front…not in consultation with your intended partner or your friends.

If you choose to have the moment, know you will live with the outcomes of your behavior not only physically, but emotionally as well.  No matter your answers please protect yourself from being a victim, from diseases, pregnancy, and emotional turmoil.  Limit the alcohol intake if that is the only thing that will give you the courage to have a Stella moment. You may end up better off than Stella, but most often it does not end in a long term and loving relationship!