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by SweetAfrica7 on September 1, 2009, 5:04 pm in Dating
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Where my fellas at? Where are the brothers who believe like I do? Where are the brothers with the same uncompromising faith that I have? You know the ones who understand that I will not allow anyone to get between me and God…Not even ME…Where is he? The one who is faithful to his God and his mate? The guy who understands that there are other ways to show genuine love and affection without laying up?
I do NOT believe that I am the only Christian single that has ever asked these questions. I do not believe that it is irrational on crazy to want someone who is heading in the same direction that I am; that believes the way that I do. One that is willing to wait for physical intimacy. Whew… I know that’s a tough one. But hear me out here….what if by HOLDING out for the good stuff; we can connect on a much deeper level with each other? So I ask you, what’s the rush? Since when did the “fast food” mentality creep into our emotional lives making us willing to disregard our hearts and share the most personal parts (no pun intended) of ourselves with a virtual stranger? What happened to guarding your heart? I find it hard to believe that I am the ONLY woman who made the mistake of believing “he loved me” when in fact it was more like “lusted after me”. That once upon a time I equated sex with love therefore I justified my behavior and ended up heartbroken and disappointed in myself for having been fooled.
I’m not saying that this is strictly a woman’s issue. It is the plight of far more men than would dare to admit it to us.
I refuse, as an active believer and a darn good catch, to lower my personal standards in order to NOT be alone. I am proud to be SINGLE, SUCCESSFUL, AND SAVED. But I must admit that I am lonely for companionship. I am frustrated with the status quo! I want someone who is uncompromising, and unwilling to settle for mediocre when there is GREATNESS in store.
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On September 1, 2009, 5:26 pm RickGeez says:
Amen sister
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On September 1, 2009, 6:04 pm MakStar says:
how long have you been celibate?
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On September 2, 2009, 9:01 am TMurray says:
To answer your question ....There are men out there who are holding themselves to the same standard and belief that you are. I just visited a male friend who is celibate (by choice). He was talking about the difficulities of maintaining that vow. In my early twenties I also dated a guy who turned out to be a virgin...He is now married and saved himself for marriage. They are out there. Thanks for posting your perspective!
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On September 2, 2009, 2:53 pm SweetAfrica7 says:
I've been celibate almost 5 years. As I learned more about myself and my faith I realized that I was out of order. It is a difficult thing, particularly in our ever changing social system, to maintain the vow. To make a concious decision to abstain is an awesome undertaking but well worth the effort..A strong support system and fellowship with likeminded people is the key to success.....And TMurray, hook a sista up...LOL
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On April 16, 2010, 6:21 am odia10 says:
@sweetafrica i love the write up from top to bottom...this part of the world companionship is the least thing on anyone's mind...pple here will say that there are far better things to look forward to than that.I dream of your world,and most times i wish for that intimacy without the physical contact,a bond that is just born out of unconditional love,forgiving in the mist of mistakes and yet still very trusting.i wish we all understood how much God loves us,am so sure the world would be a better place...
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