July 29th 2010

The Business of Dating: Marketing 102 - Intermediate

Maybe I should say it another way, you might be taking those scenarios too personal. When you lease a car, do you value every single attribute that they got on the sticker? No. You look at the whole package. Decide it works for the most part, sign the contract and then utilize what you want for the duration of the contract. Oh, I’m sorry… you don’t want to be leased. Well, I’m guessing… your target market is intelligent enough to know that if you went about proving to him that you’re a lady-freak, it’s likely you used the same marketing strategy with everyone before him. Guess what else, he ain’t buying. Then you wonder why you end up with the Player that pretends to want to purchase.

Ladies, what are you trying to sell? It is your marketing plan in the works. Do you keep finding yourself with the same dude, different body? Do you really have internal value? Or are you like the orange floor cleaner; all pretty on the outside with bitter contents? Could it be that all that bitterness is baggage that you created with your own faulty marketing plan? Are you likening yourself to me, a child that drank orange floor cleaner and wanted to displace the blame?

For those of you that like getting left on the shelf because you know that God is going to deliver that ideal man. Cool! Keeping holding on, but while you wait keep in mind that the bible teaches us to nurture a healthy mind, body and spirit. I used physical attributes because I know how it plays in our community. I knew it would light some of you up, but please feel free to insert whatever you feel may be holding you back. Specific to this scenario, don’t wait for some man to foot your ticket out of small town Bliss, Idaho. You want a man that finds value in a healthy body – cleanse your plate. You want a man that can hold a great conversation – feed your mind. Prepare yourself for what you want in life. If you choose not to prepare, be sure to keep holding on to your blame, as well. Don’t keep blaming God, your manufacturer, for making you, you – a woman with high expectations; quit trying to file a complaint by asking God why you are still alone. He’s probably already sent 10 ideal men your way.

And for those of you that find the merry-go-round of men entertaining, fabulous. If it’s you – do you, love your results and be happy. Keep on riding. I’m only trying to provide some food for thought for those that might be sick of the cycle. If you’re at peace with wrapping all that you have to offer in a sex-kitten package or if you’re truly one with your “hard bitter bitch” persona and like being treated that way, be sure to own it. It’s not man that told you to market yourself that way. Just know that you bought into the typical Player’s marketing strategy, but he's got a bonus with the deal; you're doing all the work. You're getting straight played.

Yall got my head hurting for real. Go read my piece called “He is” and then pick up a book on the laws of attraction. Men, I’m headed your way.