I'm Jealous...Is that OK?

I have been laughing a lot over this holiday season as I have been doing my norm and people watching. I have seen everything from the brother that buys the girl a drink in the club and thinks that she is his for the rest of the night...to my own subtle and mind boggling, inwardly jealous bouts of things I know I should not be jealous of!

I will say this and I don't quite understand it totally but why do people always seem to want the "NOT" SINGLE person? The obvious answers are because we always want that which we can not have or we just want to know that we can get what others have. More so it is often the idea that it looks so good on them that I need that same shirt. Not one like it but that one! Funny thing is that more often then not, getting that shirt isn't so easy and sometimes requires sharing!

I know many people who play the one on the side. A lot of times they seem to get jealous. Yet it boggles the mind to try to understand how you can be jealous of a person that you knew had someone from the onset! I think this boils down to your personal desires for the outcome of your relationship with this person. Although you have subjected yourself to being second to someone else, we often find ourselves wanting to be the primary. Truly no one wants to be the 1st place loser. We all want to win.

So when dealing with the NOT Single person you are wrong for:

-Being upset if they abruptly have to call you back!
-Not understanding that yes they must take this phone call!
-Not accepting that they can't come see you at a moments notice!
-Not feeling the fact that they can't answer the text or take your call!
-Being mad because the kids are home!

You are really even wrong for being mad if:

-They are flirting with other people!
-You find out that there is someone else!

When is it right to be jealous...really never! But there are times when the feeling can be justified and understood:

First and foremost the relationship must be an understood exclusive relationship! After that determination then parameters on the insecurities that you both have need to be discussed. If you are completely confident in the relationship many things will be ignored...while others will be tolerable. Once all of this is done...then respect for each other can help you to limit the jealous times.

So in closing I'll say this: I'm not jealous and that ladies and gentlemen is OK!